The internet is a thing that exists and it has an amazing breadth of readable content, if you can stop looking at boobs for a few minutes.
I'm a forever DM, out of choice. I love running games for people more than I'd like to play a character in one, for the most part. And when that urge strikes, I usually look for DM-less games like Fallout WW where the system has an AI and we can all play co-op. My players can depend on me to put some effort into whatever I'm doing, whether it was the DnD campaign from here or the long-lost memories of Aeon/Trinity, or a Chronicles of Darkness one-shot or even turning a wargame like BattleTech into a more narrative experience, etc. True/non-neckbeard DMs do it out of love, not out of a power trip.
I assume. The internet is rife with DMs that seem like huge pricks and I do my best to avoid that, but that also usually means accommodating player requests that I might not really be gung ho about. And I assumed that's the diametrically opposed choices I have when setting up a campaign or a chronicle. Given that most of my friends, if not all, that game are players and not DMs, it seemed like a normal and logical "either/or" situation.
Then I met Ian, my sister-in-law's DM.
Couple of prefacing points here. I'm, sadly, not super BFF close with my SiL, so I don't know how long her DnD group has been together, though I'm fairly certain they've all been friends forever (at least judging by their elf), and I gotta imagine they've been spelunking in the darkest depths together for years. I also don't know how long Ian has been their DM or a DM in general. Also, this was at a last-shebang party party at a hotel as a going away brouhaha before the building was to be demolished (it was our con hotel) and, well, let's just say sobriety and I had split fairly quickly from one another that day.
So I might not have presented myself as the most eloquent version I can be. Fortunately, he was either really patient, or also mildly inebriated, or a combo thereof which seems the most likely. In any case, he seemed like a super good guy.
And since he was introduced to me as my SiL's DM, at a time when I was drinking and frustrated, boy did I have a conversation with him.
So there I was, meeting another DM in person, and immediately had to jump into "lemme -slur- ask you a question..."
It was about Tieflings, and how they've exploded in popularity thanks to Critical Role, and how we really wish they wouldn't have. Okay, maybe I was bitter that night, but we were in agreement on three things;
1) Not every party needs a Tiefling, please.
2) Fuck Matt Mercer.
3) Elves are cocksleeves.
OKAY SO I NEED TO ELABORATE.
1) I know that it's a personal issue with me at this point, but even before it became so, I was already swinging this way. As a DM, if you're going "by the book" in how they're written up, Tieflings should generally be treated like shit by everyone, instantly distrusted wherever they go, and for the most part, have a huge uphill battle to be accepted by anyone. And if writing fiction, that's perfect. Farideh from the Brimstone Angels series is a great Tiefling character and she goes from adversity to adversity over the course of the books. But, on the tabletop, I can't imagine a player would be comfortable with their character constantly being the DM's punching bag, so you gotta sorta... Show a bit of out-of-universe favoritism there. Which also limits character growth and definitely leads to some Mary Sue-isms. Just saying. So I made the call of "never again," and Ian totally agreed with my logic.Also with taking on a disability.
There's nothing wrong with being inspired by a character in pop culture. There's lots of "how to play as..." videos out there covering building DnD characters based on different archetypes and I would totally let someone play a Trevor Belmont type in an Innistrad campaign in a heartbeat. Hell, I'll let you build a dhampir and a soul sorceror & run Alucard and Sypha as well. Believe it! Just... Be creative instead of a straight reskin.
2) I love Matt Mercer. He's a great dude and an awesome voice actor. And Critical Role, along with other "actual plays" have done more to popularize DnD since 5e came out than... Well, the entire history of DnD before. Note - I've only -run- 5e, but I used to read the books and stuff from 3e/3.5e/4e and just didn't get into them like I did with 5e. So I have no beef with Matt as a human (but if I'm being honest and had to choose, Joe Manganiello is my pick for GOAT and not just because Alcide was my favorite character from True Blood) but as a DM that has people looking towards them expecting Matt Mercer-level DMing, oof, fuck that guy. Not sure how many times I have to preface it - Matt is an exceptional DM, and his group of friends are lucky to have him, but he's also made serious bank off of Critical Role and with his professional career, he can focus a LOT of time and effort into making CR the best it can be. And he has a large amount of player-driven narrative with his team. And scripts. I'm sorry, but yes, there are scripts. It's okay. Nothing wrong with it. Just saying. So the tl;dr here is that you CANNOT expect a guy who is doing this in his free time, with fifty other hobby endeavors and a full time 40+ a week job and a family life to produce Critical Role quality stuff. All I can do is my best and that's a lot of pressure to measure up against.
3) Okay, I say this jokingly because elves in popular media are just so... Cocksleeve-y. And there are Goblin Slayer memes that reinforce this. Maybe it's all the anime, but other than Ryuu in the Picking Up Chicks in a Dungeon show, I've never been overly fond of any elf character. Legolas? Nah. Never heard of her. But it was really just joking back and forth, and even their elf player laughed. So good times.
Anyway, it's nice to have in person conversations with other DMs. I'm gonna try to do it more often.


